Pickering is a city of many origins. In 2021 its largest racialized groups were South Asian (21.2% of residents), Black (11.4%) and Filipino (4.1%) residents. For someone who arrived recently, that can be a comfort: places of worship, grocery stores and neighbours who understand at least part of the journey. It can also sharpen a particular loneliness, the feeling of being behind people who share your background but not your stage of life, and of being asked, kindly, why you have not settled in yet.
Some people choose Pickering for more room than they could afford in Toronto while keeping a job on the other side of the city line, and the daily trip becomes part of settling in. When the day goes to getting to work, doing the work and getting home, the emotional side of immigration waits: homesickness that arrives at odd moments, calls with family abroad squeezed into a time-zone gap, a career that restarted several rungs down, children adapting faster than their parents, a marriage recalibrating around new roles.
Therapy is a place for that side. Ghazal Sheikhtaheri, Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying), CRPO #21300, came to Canada from Iran and has worked with immigrants and refugees from many parts of the world. Her work draws on Schema Therapy along with attachment- and emotion-focused approaches, and helps people make sense of grief, identity and family change without treating the experience of migration as a disorder. The article on the hidden grief of immigration describes losses many newcomers recognize but rarely name.
Practical help, from paperwork to job searches, is available through local agencies such as those listed below, and the two kinds of support can run side by side. A settlement worker can help you with the steps; therapy can help with what those steps cost you, and with the version of yourself that is still catching up.
Sessions are online, so you can meet from home anywhere in Pickering, from the north end of the city to the streets around Frenchman's Bay, without adding another trip to your week. They are available in English or Farsi.