Settling in Milton means settling into a place that is changing as fast as you are. Whole neighbourhoods have filled in within a few years, and the neighbour you meet this spring may have moved in the same month you did. There is a kind of company in that. There is also a particular loneliness: everyone around you is busy starting over too, and the people who knew you before are an ocean away.
Practical help exists alongside therapy. HMC Connections (the Halton Multicultural Council) supports newcomers across Halton, Milton included, with settlement, language and employment help. Settlement services deal with the practical side: forms, schools, first jobs. Therapy is for what sits underneath: grief for the life you left, the pressure to be grateful when you are exhausted, and the quiet shift in who you are.
Families carry it together and separately. A parent who was an engineer or a teacher at home may be working a very different job while their credentials go through assessment; children pick up the accent and the slang first; grandparents arrive on long visits, or cannot come at all. Ghazal Sheikhtaheri, a Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) who immigrated from Iran, has worked with immigrants and refugees from many parts of the world, and she understands how dislocation reaches into older patterns about worth, belonging and family roles.
Money often sits in the middle of it. Some newcomers send support to family abroad while paying for a first home or a rental in a new town, and the pressure to make every dollar count can crowd out any thought of looking after yourself. Therapy is not a luxury added on top of settling; it can be part of how you keep going through it.
Time is the other scarce resource. Between work, language classes, school runs and the paperwork of permanent residence or citizenship, there is little left for yourself, and emotional needs get postponed year after year. Regular online sessions from home can be a way to stop postponing them.
The work draws on schema therapy, CBT and emotion-focused techniques, and it happens online, which saves one more trip on top of work, classes and school pickups. You can speak in English or Farsi. Roya Dadollahi Sarab, RP, also works with life transitions and grief in both languages.