Hamilton has a well-developed settlement network. The Immigrants Working Centre offers settlement counselling and employment support in many languages, YMCA Immigrant Services runs orientation, language assessment and English conversation groups, Wesley provides settlement services, and the Hamilton Immigration Partnership Council keeps a directory of services for newcomers. These organizations do essential work on the practical side of a move: status, housing, jobs, school registration, language.
Therapy is for the side that does not fit on an intake form. The grief for parents who are ageing without you. The strange loneliness of a city where you now know the bus routes but not yet many people. The shift in a marriage when one partner finds work quickly and the other does not. The tiredness of switching languages all day and never quite sounding like yourself. And the private question, months or years in, of whether this was the right decision, which can feel impossible to say out loud to family who sacrificed to help you come.
For people who came as refugees, or who left in frightening circumstances, settling can also mean carrying fear and loss that have not had anywhere to go. That work needs patience and cultural respect, and it goes at your pace, never faster.
Ghazal Sheikhtaheri, Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying), immigrated to Canada from Iran and has worked with immigrants and refugees from many parts of the world. She combines Schema Therapy with attachment- and emotion-focused methods, looking at how the patterns laid down early in life are reawakened by a move: the child who learned to be no trouble becomes the newcomer who never asks for help. Roya Dadollahi Sarab, RP, also works with life transitions and grief. Because sessions are online, they can be booked around a job search, a rota or an English class, in English, Farsi or both.